Phone and Sex

Sometimes, even if you have a regular and active sex life, it is a lot of fun to talk dirty to your partner over the phone. Whether you talk about what you did last night, what you want to do to her this weekend (or what you want her to do to you) or whether you just weave a fantasy, talking on the phone has an entirely different sexual dynamic than talking in person. If you or your girlfriend is shy, you also might find it easier to find your sexual tongue on the phone than face to face. Even people who live together find talking about sex on the phone feels totally different than talking together in person.

A lunchtime call from the office can lead to a "quickie" over the phone to make the rest of the day go by a little faster. And for most people, telling their deepest sexual fantasies comes much more easily when they cannot see the person they are talking to. That is probably the reason so many dollars are spent on commercial phone sex. The difference here is that you are telling a person you care about, and that can make your fantasies come to life. Talking on the phone often somehow feels more intimate than talking in person. It also leaves one hand free if you should happen to

find that all that talk makes you want to masturbate. You can tell your fantasy in a present tense as if you were describing something that was happening at that minute. "I am taking off your bra. Your nipples stand up as I suck on them". That way, your partner can take over from time to time "It feels wonderful when you suck on them. Don't stop".

By sharing your fantasies on the phone, you can weave amazing fantasies that include things you would have trouble doing in person, or that you wouldn't really want to do but like the idea of. Also if you or your girlfriend have fantasies about being other people - a pirate and his captive maiden or a rich woman and the gardener - it's sometimes easier to do it on the phone. You and your wife or girlfriend can also weave fantasies from which you can take your next encounter together. You can learn a little more about what each of you like and dislike sexually, and which are the best parts, and next time you can do those more. This is also a wonderful way to spend your nights when you're out of town. A romantic phone call to say "I miss you" can become an amazing sexual encounter that will keep both of you tingling all the next day.

If your lover is unsure, but is open to listening, the first time you try this she may mostly listen. If you feel awkward, you can start slow with things that you like about her, and what your favourite things are that she does to you. This won't take as much creative thought, and won't feel as risky as telling a deep-seated fantasy. Or you can talk about the first time you had sex together. What it felt like, how good it was. Once again, this is not as sexual as you would probably like to get, but starting slow might be more comfortable.

Phone sex with your partner can give whole new dimensions to your sexual feelings for each other, and make being apart a lot more fun.