When it comes to sex and love, there’s no such thing as too much knowledge. No matter how much experience one has, there are always some things that were missed, some bits of information that did not reach him or her. And since most people have other things to do with their lives than striving to become a sort of walking sex and love encyclopedias, it follows that everybody needs tips now and then.
Among the physical expressions of love, kisses are very versatile tools in the emotional kit of any human being. From the short and tender kiss of a grandmother, to heads of state briefly touching their lips to each other’s cheeks and on to passionate lovers French kissing their way to a hot session of sex, it’s obvious that our lips can express many things.
And since the best kisses are those that come out right, some tips are in order for the use of people who either don’t get much practice or are not catching up fast on what they should do. Don’t laugh! Nobody was born knowing how to do this or that thing. We all have to learn.
While we can all be thankful to the French for opening the door to the intimate play of tongues (although it’s not clear whether the French kiss comes from Paris or not), kissing is actually a universal language that can be learnt by all people. Traditionally, French kissing has been associated with the Western world, from which it’s now spreading around the globe.
When preparing to go for the kiss, take your time for a reality check. Is the girl willing to go along with this or not? If you’re about to make your approach and the girl gets an embarrassed look on her face and starts fidgeting in her chair in what may be seen as an evasive maneuver, then pull back and give her some breathing space. Don’t rush things because you’re going to regret it.
First thing you need to know is that French kisses are not meant for the first date, unless, of course, the girl is quite the party animal and you both know that your date has only one purpose. In that case, anything goes if you can get away with it; even sex in the restaurant’s lavatory. Or if the girl is so clearly willing that there can be no mistake about it. But in all other cases, save French kissing either for the end of the date or for another date.
Two things that girls hate is to have guys shoving their tongues down their throats and to have their oxygen supply cut off during kissing. Therefore, you need to take care that you leave the girl enough room to breathe or to break the kiss every now and then. This will also help you, because you also need the oxygen. Two people kissing are sharing an intimate moment, not engaging in an endurance test or in a race to the death.
When actually going for the kiss, don’t charge with your tongue sticking out or your mouth. This can gross out even the hardcore promiscuous people. Put your lips against hers and only then let your tongue come out to play. And don’t stab her mouth with your tongue. Keep your cool and read her emotions. If she wants more passion or a little rough play, then go ahead and do what you think best. If not, then keep your tongue to yourself.
On the other hand, if both you and your partner find yourselves exhausted by a prolonged session of passionate kissing, then you are on the right path. It means that she enjoys your kisses and that she probably doesn’t mind going even further. Just remember to refrain from rushing things. The slow path is sometimes best.
Do's and don'ts. What not to do when kissing.
Art Of Kissing
Kissing is something that I could talk about over and over again and never get bored. What can I say, I love to kiss? Nothing is better than a good kiss. Nothing makes the birds seem to sing louder, the grass seem greener than a great kiss. We have talked in past articles about kissing, but not really too much about methods. You aren't born a good kisser. The only thing that will help you is education and practice. I'm sure glad there are things like kissing to practice in life, life would have been boring if all it was, was geometry. Let's talk about different ways that you can kiss. Take some notes and practice on your woman. She will love the new attention.
First there is the domination. We all have seen those WWII clips of them men coming back from battle and kissing their wives. This is a kiss with some power behind it. It can say many things.
A kiss like this will knock her off of her feet. Maybe you might use this kiss if you haven't seen her for awhile. You might use this kiss if you are very horny and can't contain yourself any more. We all have had those strong moments where we feel like we have to kiss someone. We need an outlet for all the sexual frustration that we are feeling. The great thing about a kiss is, it is easy and fast too do. You can get your sexual frustration out without having to take off your clothes. The element of surprise is what makes a woman the wettest. This isn't a kissing technique per se, but you will get the drift.
While you are kissing her, roam her body with your hands. Explore every area that you can. This will make her go crazy before you can even begin to think about what your next move is. I can't tell you enough how important this is. Before you give your woman a kiss, make sure your breath smells okay. Don't go kissing her if you just ate a tuna on rye sandwich. If you are in doubt, go brush your teeth. You don't like it when she has shit stuck in her teeth that fall into your mouth.
Lets talk more about kissing and not the do's and don'ts. The explore kiss. This is where you spend some time getting to know her mouth. This is a fun one from time to time. It shows that you are interested in her. You are learning new ways to excite her. This can be good for both of you. Good for you because you will learn new things that turn her on. Great for her because she will think all this time you are spending on her is great.
The peck before bed. You know you aren't getting laid when you get that little peck before she rolls over in her flannel night gown. It doesn't have to be such a little innocent kiss. Instead, look into her eyes when she gives you that little peck. Run your fingers through her hair and tell her that you love her. This will give her sweet dreams all night long.
Just like the peck before bed, turn that peck before you leave for work into something special. Tell her that you will be thinking about her all day long while at work. Look her in the eyes and smile when you say it. This will keep her waiting for when you get home. You can also use kisses to see where she is at sexually. If you are turned on but you are not sure if she is, kiss her and find out. Give her a long slow kiss, if she comes back wanting more, than you know you are going to score in the sack. If on the other hand after you are done she is talking about he bills you owe that month, you aren't getting laid tonight.
You may not know it, but a kiss holds a lot of power to a woman. With the right kiss you can make her go from undecided to a horny vixen when it comes to sex. If you aren't sure that you will get laid, a kiss is a good way to test the waters. A kiss can also be a way to show affection. If you just want to show that you love her and are thinking about her, a great way to show it is a little peck. This will make her feel warm and fuzzy inside and know that you care.
Kissing shows interest. It maybe sexual or just love, but it does it all the same. Your woman will respond to this the same way time and time again. She will be happy to feel your lips on hers. Don't forget, you can never get too many kisses in your lifetime.
Phone and Sex
Sometimes, even if you have a regular and active sex life, it is a lot of fun to talk dirty to your partner over the phone. Whether you talk about what you did last night, what you want to do to her this weekend (or what you want her to do to you) or whether you just weave a fantasy, talking on the phone has an entirely different sexual dynamic than talking in person. If you or your girlfriend is shy, you also might find it easier to find your sexual tongue on the phone than face to face. Even people who live together find talking about sex on the phone feels totally different than talking together in person.
A lunchtime call from the office can lead to a "quickie" over the phone to make the rest of the day go by a little faster. And for most people, telling their deepest sexual fantasies comes much more easily when they cannot see the person they are talking to. That is probably the reason so many dollars are spent on commercial phone sex. The difference here is that you are telling a person you care about, and that can make your fantasies come to life. Talking on the phone often somehow feels more intimate than talking in person. It also leaves one hand free if you should happen to
find that all that talk makes you want to masturbate. You can tell your fantasy in a present tense as if you were describing something that was happening at that minute. "I am taking off your bra. Your nipples stand up as I suck on them". That way, your partner can take over from time to time "It feels wonderful when you suck on them. Don't stop".
By sharing your fantasies on the phone, you can weave amazing fantasies that include things you would have trouble doing in person, or that you wouldn't really want to do but like the idea of. Also if you or your girlfriend have fantasies about being other people - a pirate and his captive maiden or a rich woman and the gardener - it's sometimes easier to do it on the phone. You and your wife or girlfriend can also weave fantasies from which you can take your next encounter together. You can learn a little more about what each of you like and dislike sexually, and which are the best parts, and next time you can do those more. This is also a wonderful way to spend your nights when you're out of town. A romantic phone call to say "I miss you" can become an amazing sexual encounter that will keep both of you tingling all the next day.
If your lover is unsure, but is open to listening, the first time you try this she may mostly listen. If you feel awkward, you can start slow with things that you like about her, and what your favourite things are that she does to you. This won't take as much creative thought, and won't feel as risky as telling a deep-seated fantasy. Or you can talk about the first time you had sex together. What it felt like, how good it was. Once again, this is not as sexual as you would probably like to get, but starting slow might be more comfortable.
Phone sex with your partner can give whole new dimensions to your sexual feelings for each other, and make being apart a lot more fun.
